Every time I dated a guy they’d ghost me for no reason. My best friend, Liv, would say, “You just have bad luck with men.” Two months ago, I met a guy. For once, things felt solid. But he vanished too. A mutual friend let it slip: “Liv.”
I didn’t understand at first. “Liv what?” I asked, trying to brush it off like maybe she meant Liv had seen him around or something. But the way she avoided my eyes made my stomach twist.
“Liv might’ve… said some things.” That’s all she said before changing the subject. My mind kept circling back. Said some things? About me? Why?
For days, I tried to push it out of my head. I didn’t want to believe that my best friend—the girl who’d been my rock through college breakups, the one who showed up with ice cream and movies whenever I cried—would sabotage my relationships. But the doubt grew roots.
I went through every conversation I’d ever had with her about guys. She always had something to say: “He seems shady.” “I don’t think he’s really into you.” Or even, “You’re too good for him, honestly.” At the time, I thought she was just protective. Now I wondered if it was something else.
I decided to test the waters. One evening, we were having coffee at my apartment, and I casually mentioned that I’d reconnected with someone from work. I made up a name—Aaron—and a vague story about how we’d started talking again.
Liv’s smile didn’t reach her eyes. She said, “Well, I hope he’s better than the last ones.” She sipped her latte and changed the subject to her new yoga class. I noted how uninterested she seemed, but maybe that was just me being paranoid.
A week later, I got a text from “Aaron.” Except, Aaron didn’t exist. The message was from an unknown number: “Hey, just wanted to say I don’t think we should keep talking.” My heart pounded.
This was impossible. I stared at the text, and it clicked—someone had gone to the trouble of pretending to be this fake guy just to “dump” me. Only one person knew about Aaron: Liv.
I didn’t confront her right away. Instead, I started paying attention. I noticed how she reacted whenever I mentioned meeting someone. She’d start asking questions that seemed harmless but dug too deep: “What’s his last name? Where does he work? Does he have social media?” I used to think she was just curious, but now I suspected she was collecting information.
Then came the real proof. My friend Carla invited me to a small dinner with her boyfriend and some of his friends. I hit it off with one of them, a quiet guy named Daniel. We exchanged numbers and began texting.
It was going well—until he suddenly went silent after a week. I figured it was the usual ghosting routine, but then Carla called me. “This is awkward,” she said, “but Daniel told me Liv messaged him on Instagram.”
I froze. “Messaged him about what?”
Carla sighed. “She told him you weren’t over your ex, that you tend to get ‘clingy’ fast, and… that you might be seeing other guys. He didn’t know if it was true, but it freaked him out.”
My hands went cold. All this time, every guy who disappeared wasn’t just losing interest—they were being pushed away. And the person doing it was the one I trusted most.
I couldn’t let it slide. That Friday, I asked Liv to meet me at our usual café. She arrived cheerful, hair perfectly styled, ordering her oat milk cappuccino like nothing was wrong. I didn’t bother with small talk. “Why are you telling guys not to date me?”
Her smile faltered. “What are you talking about?”
“Daniel,” I said. “And Aaron. And probably every guy I’ve liked in the past three years. You’ve been interfering, haven’t you?”
She laughed lightly, but it was brittle. “You’re being dramatic.”
“No,” I said, leaning forward. “Carla told me. And Aaron didn’t exist—so explain how he texted me unless it was you.”
Her face changed then. The mask slipped. She looked me dead in the eye and said, “Because they’re not good enough for you.”
“That’s not your decision,” I snapped.
She shrugged. “You don’t see it. You fall too hard, too fast. I was saving you from heartbreak.”
“By causing it?” I asked, my voice shaking.
She didn’t answer. She just sipped her coffee like the conversation was over. I realized in that moment that the friend I thought I had wasn’t really my friend at all. She wasn’t protecting me—she was controlling me.
I left without finishing my drink. That night, I blocked her on everything. It hurt more than I expected. Losing a boyfriend was one thing, but losing the person you shared every detail with… that was worse. But I couldn’t keep someone like that in my life.
Weeks passed, and slowly, I felt lighter. Without Liv’s constant opinions, I started trusting my own instincts. I met someone new—Alex—at a volunteer event. I didn’t tell anyone at first.
We talked for weeks before meeting for coffee, and I realized how different it felt to date without someone whispering doubts in my ear.
One afternoon, Carla called me again. “You’re not going to believe this,” she said. “I saw Liv last night… with Daniel.”
It hit me like a punch. So that was it. She hadn’t just been sabotaging me—she’d been taking my place. How many of the men who ghosted me had ended up with her? I didn’t want to know. But a small, bitter part of me wondered if she’d told them lies about me to make herself look better.
I decided not to confront her. She wasn’t worth the energy. But I won’t lie—it stung. It made me realize that some people don’t just drift out of your life; they dig their way in and start tearing things down from the inside.
Months went by, and Alex and I kept seeing each other. One day, we were having brunch when he said, “You know, I almost didn’t ask you out.”
“Why?” I asked.
He hesitated. “Because someone messaged me after the volunteer event. Said you were… unstable, I guess? But they didn’t use their real name.”
I felt my stomach knot. “Did the message mention anything specific?”
“Yeah,” he said. “They said you still stalked your ex and that you were using volunteering as a way to meet guys. It was weird, though—there were details only a friend would know.”
I took a deep breath. “It was Liv. She’s done it before.”
He frowned. “Why would someone do that?”
“I stopped trying to understand,” I said. “I just know she’s not in my life anymore.”
Alex reached across the table and squeezed my hand. “Her loss.”
That moment felt like closure. Not because Liv had finally left me alone, but because I realized I didn’t care what she thought anymore. She could tell a thousand lies, and it wouldn’t change the truth about who I was or what I deserved.
A year later, I heard from a mutual acquaintance that Liv had tried the same thing with another friend of hers—feeding lies to scare off potential partners. But this time, it backfired. The guy she was interested in found out what she was doing and told everyone.
Her circle of friends shrank overnight. I wasn’t happy about her downfall, but I couldn’t ignore the irony. She’d spent years controlling other people’s love lives, and in the end, it cost her her own relationships.
The twist? A few months after that, I ran into Daniel at a grocery store. He apologized—really apologized—for believing her. “I should’ve asked you directly,” he said. “I see now she was trying to get me to date her instead.”
I smiled politely. “It’s fine. I hope you’re doing well.” And I meant it. I’d moved on. But walking away, I felt something like justice. Not revenge, but the satisfaction of knowing the truth eventually comes out.
Alex and I are still together. We’ve built something steady, without interference. And I’ve learned that protecting your peace sometimes means letting go of people you never thought you’d lose. It means choosing to believe in your own worth, no matter what anyone else says.
If there’s one thing I hope anyone takes from my story, it’s this: not everyone in your life wants the best for you, even if they claim they do. Pay attention to actions, not just words.
And when you find out someone’s been working against you, don’t waste time trying to fix them—save that energy for building a life that’s too strong for their lies to touch.
If you’ve ever had a friend turn out not to be a friend at all, know you’re not alone. Sometimes the best thing you can do is close that chapter and write a better one for yourself. And when you do, you’ll see just how much lighter life feels without the weight of someone else’s control.
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