For nine months, he was firm: “I want a brother. Sisters are boring.”
He told everyone—from his teacher to the grocery clerk. Drew pictures of him and “baby bro” playing video games together. Even picked out a name: Blaze. (I gently vetoed that one.)
But then she arrived.
Wrapped in pink, sleepy-eyed, and smelling like clouds and milk. He tiptoed into the hospital room, Xbox shirt on, hands shoved in his pockets, acting cooler than he felt.
“Is that her?” he whispered.
I nodded. “Wanna hold her?”
He hesitated. Then nodded once—sharp and brave. I slid her into his arms, and something in his face… shifted.
He looked down, and for the first time since I became a mom of two, the room went completely still. He adjusted his arms like she was made of starlight, not bone. She sighed, tiny lips puckering, and he smiled so hard he forgot to pretend he was still mad.
“She smells like donuts,” he said softly.
I laughed. “You like her?”
He didn’t answer right away. Just looked at her, then at me.
Then he said, “I think her name should be Luna. Because she’s kind of magic.”
I didn’t tell him she already had a name.
I didn’t correct him when he whispered, “Don’t worry, I’ll teach you how to jump off the couch when Mom’s not looking.”
I just let the moment be exactly what it was.
And in that second, I swear I saw the start of something unshakable.
The weeks that followed Luna’s arrival were a whirlwind. I had prepared myself for the typical sibling rivalry, the jealousy, the fighting for attention. But what I didn’t expect was how deeply Drew’s heart would shift. He became her protector in a way that caught me off guard. At first, it was small gestures—getting her diapers, bringing me her bottle, showing her the stuffed animals he thought she’d like. But then came the real change. One morning, as I watched Drew crouch beside her crib, talking to her in the softest voice I had ever heard, I realized that my son had completely and utterly fallen for his little sister.
“You’re gonna be tough,” he told her one day, with all the confidence of a big brother, “because no one messes with Luna. Not on my watch.”
And the most beautiful thing of all? Luna, not yet able to understand the words, was already responding to him. Her little hands reached out toward him, her eyes lighting up when he spoke, her giggles ringing out whenever he’d make silly faces. It was like they had an unspoken language, a bond that was growing stronger by the day.
But of course, life never goes exactly as planned. As Luna grew, so did Drew’s sense of responsibility. And that responsibility sometimes turned into pressure. One evening, when Luna was about eight months old, I noticed Drew looking more and more tired. He didn’t complain about school, or about chores, but I could tell something was off. When I asked him what was bothering him, he looked at me, a frown on his face, his voice barely above a whisper.
“I think I’m letting her down.”
“Letting her down?” I repeated, confused.
He nodded. “I’m supposed to be her big brother, right? But I think she needs more than I can give her. She cries a lot when you leave the room. And sometimes, when you’re feeding her, she looks so sad when I try to make her laugh.”
It was a heart-wrenching thing to hear, but it also made me realize something I hadn’t fully acknowledged: Drew wasn’t just playing the role of a big brother—he was carrying the weight of it, too. It wasn’t just about teaching Luna how to jump off the couch (though he certainly had a plan for that). He felt a deeper sense of responsibility for her happiness, her well-being. And the pressure was starting to get to him.
I took a deep breath, trying to find the right words to help him.
“Drew, listen to me,” I said, crouching down to his level. “You’re already doing an amazing job. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to make Luna laugh all the time. You don’t have to solve everything. You just need to love her. And that’s exactly what you’re doing.”
He looked at me with those big, soulful eyes and nodded slowly. But I could see the doubt still there, hovering like a cloud. The weight was still on his shoulders, and I couldn’t just wish it away.
The next few months became a balancing act. Drew still adored Luna, still wanted to be her protector, but now he was also trying to balance his own emotions with the demands of being the big brother. I saw him retreat into himself sometimes, trying to hide his own struggles behind the big brother act. I knew it was something I had to address. He was growing up, and with that came the realization that being a sibling—especially the older one—wasn’t always easy.
And then came the turning point.
One night, after a long day, Drew came to me with a question that hit me like a freight train.
“Mom, what if I’m not enough? What if she needs more than just me?”
I sat down beside him on his bed, his little hand gripping mine as he stared down at the floor. The vulnerability in his voice made my heart ache.
“Drew, you are more than enough. You’ve always been enough,” I said softly. “You don’t have to do anything more than you’re already doing. Luna doesn’t need someone perfect. She needs you, just as you are. And that’s the most amazing gift you could give her.”
He looked at me then, as if searching for some kind of assurance, and I could see the relief start to seep in.
“Okay,” he whispered, “I think I get it.”
The next few weeks were different. Drew stopped trying to be everything for Luna and began simply being with her. He’d sit next to her on the floor, just talking to her like she was a friend, not a responsibility. He would read her stories, share his toy cars with her, and talk to her about his day at school. And slowly, it became clear that Luna didn’t need him to be perfect, either. She didn’t need him to fix her world—she just needed him to love her. And that love, that simple, unconditional love, was all she ever wanted.
And just when I thought I had seen everything, life threw me a twist.
A few months later, while shopping at the grocery store, I ran into an old friend. Her name was Megan, and we had been close during college. She looked different now—more grown-up, a little wearier—but she had the same warm smile. We exchanged pleasantries, talked about our kids, and then she dropped a bombshell.
“I’m moving out of state next week,” she said, looking at me with a hesitant smile. “And I’m selling everything. Do you want Luna’s crib? It’s a shame to leave it behind, and I know she’d love it.”
I was confused for a second, then it hit me. Luna was already out of her crib. She had been for months, growing like a weed. I had no use for it.
But Megan wasn’t offering it out of kindness. She was giving me something I didn’t even realize I needed: a reminder of how much we had all grown.
When I looked back at Drew, I realized that he wasn’t just learning how to be a brother. He was learning how to let go, how to allow others in, how to share his space, his heart, and his world. And in return, Luna was teaching him something about himself that he didn’t expect—how to be gentle with his own heart, how to show up without being perfect.
In that moment, I saw the beautiful karmic twist of it all. Drew had started this journey thinking he had to be more, do more for Luna. But in the end, it wasn’t about doing it all. It was about being present, being himself, and loving without expecting anything in return. And that was the lesson that I hope stays with both of them forever.
So, here’s my message for anyone out there who feels like they have to be everything for everyone: You don’t. You don’t have to be perfect. Just show up, love hard, and be present. That’s enough.
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