My son told me I was “pissing away Dad’s house on postcards” when I sold it for $318,000 at sixty-seven and bought a ticket with nine stops on it, and my oldest daughter quit answering my calls. Seven weeks later, in Galway, a widower I’d met on a ferry asked me up for tea, and in his front room I couldn’t move.
For thirty-one years that house on the corner was where everybody dropped things off.
Kids on Saturdays. Laundry when a dryer broke. A beagle for “one week” that turned into five.
After Jon died, nine years ago this March, the drop-offs only got heavier.
My son needed $11,200 for a truck, “just until the bonus comes through.”
The bonus never came through.
My younger daughter needed $6,500 for crowns, and I sat in the waiting room for two hours holding her purse.
Nobody called on my birthday unless it landed on a day they NEEDED something.
I’m not saying that to be pitiful. It’s just the count.
Last January I sat at the kitchen table with a wall calendar and a pen and counted the weekends I’d had to myself in a year.
Four.
The next morning I called a realtor before I could talk myself out of it.
The sign went up on a Tuesday. By Thursday afternoon all three of my kids were standing in my kitchen.
“You can’t sell it,” my son said. “This is where the boys grow up.”
“The boys grow up at your house,” I said.
“It’s Dad’s house, Mom.”
“It’s MY house. Your father’s been gone nine years.”
My oldest had her arms folded by the fridge. “So you’re going to blow it on hotels? At your age?”
“Some of it,” I said.
“And who’s taking the boys in June?” my younger one said.
Nobody had an answer for that, least of all me, so I didn’t try.
My son picked his keys up off my counter and pointed them at me like a little knife.
“Dad meant for us to have this place,” he said. “EVERYBODY knows that.”
“Your dad meant for me to have a roof,” I said.
“You’re pissing away Dad’s house on postcards.”
Then he walked out and let the storm door bang behind him.
My oldest stopped answering after that day.
My younger one sent a thumbs-up to the itinerary I emailed and nothing else.
That’s what thirty-one years got me. ONE thumbs-up.
The closing went through in April.
I kept one suitcase I could swing into an overhead bin by myself. That was my rule. If I couldn’t lift it, it stayed.
Ireland was the third country.
I met Elliott in the line for the snack counter on the ferry out to the islands, which only sold one kind of sandwich, egg.
Seventy-two years old, widowed like me, and he did the crossword in pen, which I’ve always thought was showing off.
“You’ve got seven down wrong,” I said.
He looked at it a long time. “I have, haven’t I.”
For the next four afternoons I kept running into him on purpose.
He liked old country records, the sad ones.
He grew tomatoes in a greenhouse the size of a phone booth.
He asked about Jon and then actually listened to the answer.
I hadn’t talked about Jon in years. Nobody had asked.
On the fifth afternoon he said, “Come up to the house, Lourdes. I’ll make you proper tea, and I’ve a room full of records you’ll laugh at.”
I said yes. I’m sixty-seven, not DEAD.
His place was a narrow gray house up a steep street, a bicycle in the hall, his shoes lined up by the door like a schoolboy’s.
“Go on through,” he said, heading for the kitchen. “Two minutes.”
I stepped through to the front room.
And stopped.
My purse slid off my shoulder and landed on the rug.
There were records everywhere, like he’d promised. An upright piano under the window. A lamp with a crooked shade.
And on the wall over the piano, on two brass hooks, hung a twelve-string guitar with a dime glued over the crack beside the soundhole.
Jon glued that dime on in the winter of 1983, when we couldn’t afford a repair and he couldn’t stand not playing.
He used to tap it for luck before every song.
After the funeral my son carried that guitar out to his truck himself.
“It’s not leaving the family, Mom,” he’d said. “I’ll keep it SAFE.”
I grabbed the back of Elliott’s armchair because my knees weren’t sure about anything.
From the kitchen Elliott said, “Milk, or are you a heathen?”
I couldn’t answer him.
THAT WAS JON’S GUITAR.
And it was hanging an ocean away from the garage where my son swore he kept it.
Two brass hooks
The kettle was still going in the kitchen. I had maybe a minute.
I let go of the armchair, stepped over my purse, and lifted the guitar off the hooks.
It was heavier than I remembered. Twelve strings pull hard on a neck, Jon used to say. That’s why you keep it off the radiator.
I turned it toward the window and tipped the soundhole to the light.
Inside, on the brace under the top, in carpenter’s pencil gone shiny with age, was his handwriting.
Lourdes says it’s fine. Feb ’83.
I had said it was fine. We had forty dollars that month and the music store wanted sixty to fix the crack, and I’d said put a dime on it, honey, it’s fine. He laughed for ten minutes and then he went and got the glue.
So it was his. That part was done.
Elliott came in backwards with the tray, pushing the door with his hip, and saw me holding it.
“Ah, you found her,” he said. “Isn’t she something? Don’t mind the dime. Some fella in America did that years back, and I hadn’t the heart to take it off.”
Some fella in America.
I hung it back on the hooks. My hands did it fine. The rest of me wasn’t working.
“Where’d you get it?” I said.
“Off the internet, would you believe.” He set the tray down on a stack of records. “Came in a cardboard box with a bath towel round it. No case at all. I nearly cried.”
He handed me a cup with the milk already in it. He’d decided for me.
On the ferry I’d seen him write down what he paid for an egg sandwich, in a little notebook, in pen.
“She came all the way from America,” he said. “Same as you.”
G, C and D
Jon bought that guitar used in 1979, the year before we married, off a man selling his dead brother’s things out of a station wagon.
For thirty-some years it hung on a nail by the back door of the corner house. A nail. Elliott would’ve had a fit.
Jon played it after supper with his chair pushed back from the table. He tapped the dime before every song, and if you talked over the sad ones he’d stop and wait until you were done.
Our oldest was the one who sat with him.
She was eight the summer he taught her. G, C and D on the kitchen linoleum, her fingers too short for twelve strings, crying because they cut. He put Band-Aids on her fingertips and made her keep going.
“Three chords and you can play half of everything on the radio,” he told her.
Our son never touched it. He was out in the driveway with a basketball, or later with a car somebody else had paid for.
When Jon died, it was our son who took charge. I’ll give him that. He called the funeral home, he picked the casket, he stood at the church door shaking hands like he was the man of something.
The morning after the funeral, while his sisters were still in their pajamas, he took the guitar down off the nail and carried it out to his truck.
His older sister was standing right there with a coffee.
“It’s not leaving the family, Mom,” he said, to me, not to her. “I’ll keep it SAFE.”
She set her coffee down on the counter and went upstairs.
I let it go. I’d been a widow for six days. I’d have let him take the stove.
Two Christmases ago, at his house, I asked if I could see it. I wanted the boys to hear somebody play it, even badly.
“It’s in the garage under the tarp, behind the mower,” he said. “It’s freezing out there, Mom. Next time.”
There wasn’t a next time. I didn’t push. I’d gotten real good at not pushing.
Elliott sat down across from me with his tea and smiled up at the wall.
“Three years she’s been up there,” he said.
Two Christmases ago, my son had her behind a mower.
The tarp
I asked where his bathroom was.
It was up three steps and had a pull cord for the light. I sat on the closed lid with my phone and texted my son. Just him, not the family chat.
Where’s Dad’s guitar right now?
He answered in under two minutes, which he has never done in his life.
Garage. Why?
Can you send me a picture of it?
Nothing for a while. Then a picture came through.
A black guitar case lying flat under a blue tarp, the tarp pulled back at one corner, the handle of the mower in the edge of the frame. The case was shut. The latches were done up.
Open it, I typed.
He didn’t answer me. He went to the family chat instead, the one with all three of them and me, the one I named “Farah Family” in 2014 that nobody ever changed.
Mom is texting me from IRELAND asking me to prove I didn’t steal Dad’s guitar. Is she ok?? Should we be worried
My younger one answered first. She always does when it isn’t about money she owes.
Mom please. You’re on vacation. Let it go.
Then: Is this a jet lag thing?
My oldest’s name sat at the bottom of the chat with nothing under it.
I typed three different answers and deleted every one. Each of them sounded like a woman who’d sold her house and lost her mind in a foreign bathroom.
What I had was a case with the latches done up in his garage, and a man downstairs whose guitar came in a towel.
I pulled the flush I hadn’t used, so Elliott would hear it, and opened the door.
Binder, 2023
He was in the front room straightening a record that didn’t need it.
“Elliott,” I said. “Sit down a minute.”
I told him about the dime. February of ’83, forty dollars, the pencil under the top. I told him about the nail by the back door and the morning after the funeral and the tarp behind the mower.
He listened the way he had on the ferry. He didn’t say “are you sure.” He didn’t look at the guitar while I talked. He looked at me.
When I was done he got up and went to the shelf by the piano. There was a row of white binders with years on the spines in his pen.
“Dorothy’s rule,” he said. “My wife. She said a man who doesn’t write down what he pays for records buys the same record twice.”
He pulled 2023 and opened it on his knees.
A printed order confirmation, three-hole punched. Twelve-string acoustic guitar. $1,900. Shipping, $240. Seller’s location, a town I’ve driven to four hundred times.
Under that, the ship-from address.
My son’s street. My son’s house number. The house where I drop off casseroles and pick up the boys and park on the left so I don’t block his truck.
The date of sale was March 14, 2023.
Jon died in March. Every year my son calls on the anniversary, and that year he came by in person. He sat at my kitchen table on a Sunday, two or three days after that date, and told me he needed $11,200 for a truck, just until the bonus came through.
I wrote the check at that table. He watched me sign it.
He’d already sold his father’s guitar. He sold it the week of his father’s anniversary, and then he came to me for the rest.
Elliott turned the page.
“There’s the listing as well,” he said. “I always print the listing. Sellers lie.”
Item description
It was a screenshot, printed in color, the photos down one side. The guitar was laid out on a bedspread I knew. Navy, with little anchors. I bought it for the boys at a yard sale.
The title said Vintage 12 string acoustic, my dads, MUST GO.
He wrote the description himself. I could tell because he has never once in his life put an apostrophe where it belongs.
My dad passed and my mom wants all his stuff out of the house, she cant stand to look at any of it. This is the last thing. Dime on the soundhole is how he fixed it lol. No case. Serious offers only.
I read it twice. Then I read lol again by itself.
My mom wants all his stuff out of the house.
Jon’s flannel shirts were in a bin in my closet in that house until the week I sold it. His reading glasses were in the drawer by my bed. I took a whole afternoon in March deciding which of his things went in my one suitcase, and the answer was his watch and nothing else, because I couldn’t stand to choose.
“I’m sorry,” Elliott said. “Lourdes. I’m sorry, I’d never have—”
“You didn’t do anything,” I said.
I took a picture of the order page and a picture of the listing. I didn’t send them to the family chat. I sent them to my oldest, just her, the one who’d let every call of mine ring out since the day in my kitchen.
I didn’t write anything with them.
Then I drank Elliott’s tea, which had gone cold, with the milk he’d put in without asking.
Four minutes. Then my phone rang, and it was her name on the screen.
Easter
“Is it real?” she said. No hello.
“It’s on the wall in front of me.”
“Where are you?”
“Galway. A man’s front room. He bought it three years ago.”
She didn’t say anything. I could hear her kitchen faucet running.
Then she said, “He told us at Easter. That Easter. He said you’d bagged up all Dad’s stuff for Goodwill and the guitar was the one thing he got out of the house before you could, and then you kept on at him till he sold it. He said you called it clutter. He said you wanted it gone.”
“I never said that.”
“I KNOW that now, Mom.” The faucet went off. “I didn’t call you about it because I thought you’d just say clutter to my face. And then the sign went up, and I thought, well. There she goes. Finishing the job.”
She was crying. She cries like her father, very quiet and annoyed about it.
“I’m adding him,” she said.
The video call came through a minute later, four squares. My son in his truck in a parking lot. My younger one in her car with her sunglasses up on her head. My oldest at her table. Me.
My son did the talking. He always has.
“Okay, first of all, I don’t know who this guy is, Mom, some guy you met on a BOAT—”
I turned the phone around and held it up to the wall. The hooks, the twelve strings, the dime.
“—okay. Okay. Yeah, I sold it. Fine. I sold it. I was underwater, alright? I had the payments, I had the boys, you think a bonus that never shows up is gonna— You were sitting in a whole HOUSE, Mom. By yourself. With a guitar on a nail nobody played.”
“I played it,” my oldest said.
“When you were EIGHT. Come on. It was rotting on that nail. I got it to somebody who’d hang it up right, which is more than—” He pointed his keys at the screen. “And I’m the bad guy? You sold DAD’S HOUSE. You’re over there buying postcards with it.”
My younger one hadn’t said a word. She took her sunglasses off her head and put them on the dashboard.
“You told me she gave his clothes away,” she said. “I asked her for one of his flannels last year and she got it out of a bin.”
“That’s not—”
“You said GOODWILL.”
He started over, from the boat, from the guy, from the bonus. Nobody stopped him. Nobody answered him either.
I turned to Elliott. He was standing by the piano with the binder against his chest.
“What do I owe you?” I said.
“Nothing. God, no. Take it.”
“Twenty-one hundred and forty,” I said. “Write it in the binder.”
He looked at me a long time, the way he had at seven down.
“Only because you’d leave the money on the piano anyway,” he said.
That, and shipping it home insured, was Japan. I’d been saving Japan for last.
On the screen my son said, “So you’re buying it BACK. With Dad’s house money.”
“Yes,” I said.
My oldest wiped her face with the back of her wrist.
“Send it to me,” she said. “I still know G.”
Lisbon
Portugal was the fourth country. I got there three weeks later with the same one suitcase, a little lighter.
There’s a post office near my hotel with a spinning rack of postcards out front. Trams, mostly. Tiles. A dog in a hat.
The itinerary on my phone said eight stops now. Japan had a line through it.
Elliott had sent a picture the night before. Two brass hooks over the piano with nothing on them, and a Patsy Cline record leaned against the wall underneath. Kettle’s on whenever, he wrote.
I bought a postcard with a yellow tram on it.
I wrote my son’s address in block capitals, the street I’d seen printed in a binder in Galway. On the other side I wrote Wish you were here. Love, Mom. I meant some of it.
I bought the stamp, pressed it on with my thumb, and dropped the card through the brass slot.
My phone buzzed before I got to the corner. A video call. My oldest, at her kitchen table, the box open beside her and a bath towel hanging out of it.
The guitar was across her lap. She had Band-Aids on two fingertips.
“Hold on,” she said. “My fingers went soft.”
She tapped the dime twice and started in on G.
If this one got to you, send it to somebody whose mother finally bought herself the ticket.
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