MY HUSBAND HAS LOCKED ME OUT OF OUR HOME

If this wasn’t happening to me I would be laughing right now at the silliness of the whole thing. I can’t believe the man I spent 5 years loving could so easily think I could cheat.

We have been married for 2 weeks. On Monday he got a call from his brother that their father had hit their mother while backing up the driveway and that she broke her hip.

She went to surgery and got hip replacement and she was in pain. My husband left immediately to his parents and stayed there until Wednesday morning.

They live 4h drive away. when he came home around 8 am on Wednesday, I was on my way out to work. He asked me why it smelled cologne for men in our apartment and especially in our bedroom.

I was confused and didn’t know what he meant. I told him that I didn’t know and because I was running late I left for work without further discussion.

When I came back from work he had already changed the locks. I tried to call and text but his phone was off. I called mom and she let me stay with her. I was so worried so I called my brother in law and he told me that my husband was there but that he didn’t want to talk now. Later he [husband] texted me that It was over between us.

I asked what’s going on and he told me that he knew I had a man with me while he was away. That I was disgusting for cheating on him in OUR bed, when we’re newly married. His mother was angry and she demanded that I gave my wedding band back to them since it cost $18K.

My mother in law also told me that they’re going to start annulment process and that they would send my my clothes and the few items I brought with me since everything else was his. I texted my husband why he would even think something this horrible of me and he said it was the cologne.

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My husband wears only one unisex perfume with very distinctive smell and this wasn’t his. I racked my brain to understand where the smell came from. I tried to explain that we had some warm nights and I had the windows open and the smell must have some from the neighbors, to no avail. My mother in law, from her sickbed made sure that everyone in our lives knew “what I have done”. My phone was never silent.

My husband hates fish. Smell, taste and everything but especially the smell. That’s why, whenever my husband isn’t around I usually make fish for me because I love seafood. So on Monday I made pan-fried sea bream (one of my favorite dishes). Our apartment is small and to try and hide the smell I used scented wipes ( the samples you get when buying make up).

I have a table fan in our bedroom and it’s been on most of the time because of the heat. I thought it was smart to attach the wipes on the back of the fan. I got used to the smell and therefore didn’t understand what my husband meant when he said it smelled cologne for men.

I told him all this and to make sure he believed me I told him to look in the bathroom trashcan for the packages and on the back of the fan for the wipes. On Friday morning he was at my moms house apologizing and begging me to go back home with him.

Now I’m home and everything is supposed to be back to normal but I have a very bad taste in my mouth. How could my husband, who I have been together with for 5 years so easily think that I’m capable of doing suck horrible thing to him and to myself.

And his reaction! So strong and radical. Just throw me out like a dog and shut me out, only contacting me via text.

And his family not wasting a moment to bash me to the rest of the family, ruining my reputation. I asked him why he did this and all he could do is apologize and cry and cry and apologize later followed by “I’ve always thought you’re too good to be with someone like me” which is no consolation at all. How little does he think of me?

I was supposed to visit his mom this weekend because I couldn’t take a leave from work during the week but she can forget that now. I’m going to tell my husband I need to move to my mom for a period of time to think of what has happened.

Thereafter I have no idea what to do. I know that the easiest thing to do is to forgive and forget but I don’t know. I’m hurt and disgusted and sad and hurt and angry and outraged and so f*cking pissed.

If you read all of this I’m sorry it’s too long and thank you 🙏