I’ve been with my fiancé, Ryan, for six years, and we’ve been engaged for the past eight months. Planning the wedding has been mostly smooth—until two weeks ago, when I finally picked out my dream wedding dress. It was everything I had ever wanted: classic, elegant, and white.

I came home excited to show Ryan a picture of the dress, expecting him to be as thrilled as I was. But his face immediately fell.

“You can’t wear white,” he said flatly.

I blinked. “What?”

“You should wear red instead,” he continued, his voice firm.

I laughed nervously, thinking it was some kind of joke. But he wasn’t laughing.

“That’s ridiculous,” I said, searching his face for any sign of amusement. “It’s a wedding. Brides wear white.”

Ryan shook his head. “Not you. You have to wear red.”

At first, I thought he was being superstitious. Maybe it was some tradition I didn’t know about? But Ryan wasn’t superstitious or particularly sentimental. This felt… weird.

“Why?” I asked, arms crossed.

He hesitated. “It’s just better that way.”

“That’s not an answer.”

He sighed and ran a hand through his hair. “Look, can you just trust me on this?”

His unwillingness to explain only made me more suspicious. This was our wedding, and he was making an unreasonably strong demand without a reason.

“I deserve to know why,” I insisted. “If this is so important to you, tell me why.”

Ryan looked away, jaw clenched, as if he was debating whether to say anything at all. Finally, after a long pause, he mumbled, “Because… you’re not exactly pure.”

I felt like the ground beneath me had cracked open. “Excuse me?”

He shrugged, still refusing to meet my eyes. “You’ve had past relationships. White represents purity, and it just doesn’t feel right.”

For a moment, I was too stunned to respond. I had been in two relationships before Ryan, but he had known that from the start. Never once had he seemed to care.

“So, what? You think I don’t deserve to wear white?” I asked, my voice rising.

Ryan finally looked at me, his expression unreadable. “It’s just how I feel.”

Anger and hurt surged through me. “And what about you? You’ve had past relationships, too! Or does purity only apply to women?”

“That’s not the same,” he muttered.

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. The man I had loved for six years, the man I had planned to spend the rest of my life with, was telling me I wasn’t ‘pure’ enough for a white dress. I felt sick.

I stormed out of the room, needing air, needing space. I called my best friend, Lily, and told her everything.

“What a complete jerk,” she said, furious on my behalf. “Are you seriously going to marry him after this?”

I didn’t know what to say. I had loved Ryan for so long, and this was so out of character for him. But how do you overlook something like this?

I spent the next few days avoiding wedding talk altogether. I wasn’t sure if I could go through with it. The idea of walking down the aisle knowing my fiancé thought of me as less-than… it shattered me.

Then, a few days later, Ryan’s mother, Eleanor, called me.

“I heard there’s been some tension about the wedding dress,” she said gently.

I sighed. “I guess you could say that.”

“Did Ryan tell you why he really doesn’t want you to wear white?”

I frowned. “He said it was about ‘purity.’”

Eleanor was silent for a moment, then sighed. “That boy. He’s always been stubborn, but this is… complicated.”

I waited, and finally, she continued.

“When Ryan was little, his father left me at the altar,” she said, her voice thick with emotion. “I was in a beautiful white dress, surrounded by guests, waiting for a man who never showed up. The humiliation, the heartbreak… it crushed me. And Ryan saw all of it.”

I gasped. “I— I had no idea.”

“He was only six, but he remembers it vividly. For years, he associated white wedding dresses with broken promises and pain. I think, deep down, he’s afraid of history repeating itself.”

Everything clicked into place. Ryan wasn’t judging me. He wasn’t being cruel. He was scared.

That night, I sat down with him and gently brought up what his mother had told me.

His shoulders tensed, and he looked away. “I just… I don’t want anything to go wrong,” he admitted. “I know it’s stupid, but every time I think about you in a white dress, I remember my mom standing there, waiting for someone who never came. I can’t shake it.”

Tears welled up in my eyes. “Ryan, I’m not your father. And you’re not a little boy watching his mother get hurt again.”

He exhaled shakily. “I know. I just— I guess I was trying to control something so that I wouldn’t feel powerless again.”

I reached for his hand. “Then let’s make new memories. Ones that aren’t tied to the past.”

Ryan squeezed my hand. “You really want to wear white?”

I nodded. “Not because of some old tradition, but because it’s my choice. Just like I choose you.”

For the first time in days, he smiled. “Okay.”

On our wedding day, I walked down the aisle in my white dress. And at the end of it stood Ryan, waiting for me—not with fear, but with love.

His mother had tears in her eyes, but this time, they were happy ones.

And as we said our vows, I knew—we weren’t bound by the past. We were writing our own story, together.

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