My daughter’s best friend came up the aisle at her service in a powder-blue prom tuxedo, holding a corsage box, and my husband got halfway out of the pew and said, “I’ll drag that little clown out by his collar.” I held him down by the belt. Ten minutes later that boy took the microphone and told the whole room who had paid for the tux.
Judah Pangilinan had been eating at our kitchen table since he was five.
He lived across the alley, behind the tire shop.
His dad worked nights and his mom was gone, so most evenings he just came through our back gate without knocking.
Eden was five too.
They learned to ride on the same busted bike with pink tassels on the handlebars, and he never once complained about the tassels.
Mitch taught them both to throw in the backyard and griped about the dents in the gutter for ten years.
Then in the fall of her sophomore year, Eden got tired.
Just tired, at first.
Eleven months later we were picking out a casket the color of skim milk, because she’d told me once that she hated wood.
Judah drove to the hospital every single day she was in. An hour and ten minutes each way, in a Cavalier with no heat.
He did her chemistry worksheets so she wouldn’t fall behind. She never went back to school. He kept doing them anyway.
So when he walked in on Saturday, I didn’t understand what I was looking at.
Powder blue.
A ruffled shirt. A bow tie in the same blue.
Every head in that room turned around.
My mother-in-law, Alma, said, “Is that a joke? Is he doing a JOKE?” loud enough for the second row.
Judah didn’t look at anybody. He carried a white plastic corsage box in both hands like it might spill and sat down at the end of the fourth pew.
Mitch’s whole neck went red.
“What the hell is he wearing,” he said.
“I don’t know.”
“That’s a prom tux, Rochelle. He came to our daughter’s funeral in a PROM TUX.”
“Please sit down.”
He was already up. One hand was on the pew in front of us and he was leaning out toward the aisle.
“I’ll drag that little clown out by his collar,” he said.
I hooked two fingers through his belt loop and pulled.
Hard.
He looked down at me like I was the one who’d done something.
“Not today,” I said. “Not in front of her.”
He sat. His knee bounced against mine through the entire first hymn.
Pastor Murphy read a psalm. Two of Eden’s cousins read a poem off a phone, passing it back and forth.
The slideshow ran on a TV beside the casket, and there she was at nine, missing her front teeth, holding a catfish she had refused to touch.
Then Pastor Murphy said Judah had asked to speak.
Mitch made a sound in his throat.
Judah walked up in that blue tux. The pants were an inch too short. You could see his white gym socks.
He set the corsage box on the lectern and took out his phone.
His thumb was shaking so hard he dropped it once.
“I know what this looks like,” he said.
Not one person in that room made a sound.
“Mr. Guthrie, I know you want to hit me. Eden said you would.”
My husband went still beside me.
“She said you’d stand up first, and Mrs. Guthrie would grab you by the belt.”
My hand was still on that belt loop.
Somebody behind us laughed and then stopped.
Judah wiped his face with the back of his wrist.
“This was for May fourteenth. Junior prom. She asked me in March, from the couch, with a sign she made out of a pizza box.”
He swallowed.
“She picked the blue. She said if she couldn’t go, I still had to wear it once, in a room FULL of people, and I wasn’t allowed to take it back.”
Alma said, “Oh, for God’s sake,” to nobody.
Judah looked right at our pew.
“And she paid for it with YOUR card, sir.”
Mitch’s mouth came open.
I knew that charge.
Two hundred and fourteen dollars, from a formalwear place out by the highway, on the March statement.
Mitch had called the bank about it from our kitchen. Forty minutes on speaker, telling some poor woman it was FRAUD, that somebody had stolen his number, that he wanted it reversed TODAY.
Eden had been on the couch in the next room the whole time.
She’d turned her face into the cushions so he wouldn’t see her shaking.
I thought it was the pain.
“She made me swear I’d tell you that part here,” Judah said. “Not at your house. Not before. HERE.”
He picked up the corsage box.
“And she made me swear I’d hand you this in front of everybody, because she said if it was just the two of you, you’d never open it.”
He held it out over the edge of the lectern, toward us.
Mitch didn’t move.
Through the clear lid I could see it wasn’t flowers.
It was paper. A lot of paper, folded small and packed in tight.
And on top, in the purple marker she used for everything, in Eden’s handwriting, was my husband’s name.
Mitch stood up again.
This time I didn’t reach for his belt.
The lectern
Mitch went up the aisle with his suit jacket buttoned one hole off.
Nobody stopped him. Pastor Murphy took a step back from the lectern and kept his hands folded in front of him.
Judah didn’t step back. He held the box out until Mitch took it, and then he let go one finger at a time.
Mitch popped the lid.
The paper was folded into little squares, the way she folded notes in middle school, and every square had a number on it in purple. The one on top, with his name, was a whole sheet.
He read it to himself. His lips moved.
“Out loud, sir,” Judah said. “That was the deal.”
Mitch cleared his throat into the microphone and it squealed.
“Dad. These go in order. Out loud. The first ten today, in front of everybody, and the rest one a night. Judah has the list on his phone so don’t cheat.”
Somebody near the back said, “Oh, Eden.”
Judah’s father was back there, in the last row, still in his work jacket from the night shift. I hadn’t seen him come in.
Mitch unfolded number one.
“Hi Dad. The blue was my idea. If you want to yell at somebody, yell at the casket.”
A couple of people laughed the wet way. Alma didn’t.
Mitch ran his thumb down the side of the stack like he was counting a drawer.
“How many of these are there,” he said.
“Forty-four,” Judah said. “She said you’d try to skip number nine.”
The shoebox on the fridge
My husband has kept every bank statement since 2009 in a Nike shoebox on top of the refrigerator.
First Monday of the month, he sat at the kitchen table with a yellow highlighter and went down every line. Gas. Groceries. The water bill. If something was a dollar off, he called.
“Somebody in this house has to watch it,” he said, about once a month, for seventeen years.
When Eden got sick, the watching turned into his other job. He fought the insurance company over a nine-thousand-dollar scan for eleven days straight, on speaker, from that same table, and he won. Alma told the whole Wednesday prayer group. Mitchell is fighting for that girl. She said it at the grocery store too.
So when the March statement came, I knew what was going to happen before he got to the second page.
Two hundred and fourteen dollars. A formalwear place out by the highway.
He called right there. I was at the sink doing the supper dishes. The bank put him through to a woman named Bridget, and he had her on speaker the whole forty minutes, because he likes the other person to know he’s not going anywhere.
Eden was on the couch in the next room. The TV was on low.
Near the end, Bridget asked him if anybody in the household had access to the card.
Mitch looked out the window over the sink. Out there was the back yard, the dented gutter, and the back gate, with Judah’s Cavalier parked in the alley behind it.
“Nobody in this house,” he said. “I’ll take care of the rest of it myself.”
I didn’t think anything about that. I wish I could tell you I did.
The next week there was a padlock on the back gate. Mitch said the tire shop had been broken into twice and he wasn’t going to be number three.
And Judah started ringing the front doorbell.
Every day. Seven-fifteen, after his dad left for work. He’d stand on the porch with his backpack on one shoulder and wait.
I thought he was growing up. Seventeen, getting formal. Eden would yell “It’s OPEN” from the couch and he’d come in anyway, wiping his feet twice.
Mitch always got up and went out to the garage when the bell rang.
I thought that was about the cancer. Everything was, that year.
Up at the lectern, my husband unfolded number two.
Number nine
“You were right about the catfish,” Mitch read. “I just didn’t want to touch it.”
That got a real laugh. Even the cousins.
Three said he still owed Judah forty dollars for helping him rehang the gutter in 2019. He keeps track. I checked. Judah looked at his shoes.
Four said I hide the good scissors in the sweater drawer and now Dad knows.
Five said, “Don’t let Grandma pick my hymns.” Alma had picked every one of them. She sat up straighter and smoothed her skirt over her knees.
The thermostat out in the vestibule had a sign taped over it that said DO NOT TOUCH, underlined twice. I don’t know why I remember that. I was staring at it through the doors the whole time he read.
Mitch was going faster now. Six. Seven. Eight was about the Pirates and a game in Pittsburgh he’d promised her and never got tickets for, and his voice went funny, and he pushed through it.
He unfolded nine.
He didn’t read it out loud. He read it to himself, and he read it twice.
Then he folded it back into its little square, put it in the inside pocket of his jacket, and buttoned the jacket. The right hole this time.
“That one’s personal,” he said into the microphone.
“Sir,” Judah said.
“I said it’s personal.”
Alma half stood. “Pastor, I think that’s enough of all this.”
Pastor Murphy didn’t look at her. He was looking at the box.
Mitch’s hand was shaking now, the same as Judah’s had. He got number ten open on the second try and read it before he could stop himself.
“Ten. You skipped nine. Go back.”
Jose in the last row
He didn’t go back.
He set the box down on the lectern, walked down the aisle, and sat next to me. I could feel the square of paper through his jacket against my arm.
Pastor Murphy read the last prayer. Nobody heard a word of it.
“What does it say,” I said.
“Nothing. She was on a lot of medicine by then.”
Alma leaned across him. Her breath smelled like the mints she keeps in her purse.
“Leave it alone, Rochelle,” she said. “Whatever that child wrote at the end, she wasn’t herself. Not here.”
I looked at her.
She had not been anywhere near that box. Mitch had not shown her that paper. And she already knew it was something to leave alone.
After the service, the funeral director walked the family into a little room off the side of the chapel so the other people could go up and say goodbye before they closed the lid. There was a box of tissues on every flat surface in that room. I counted nine.
I didn’t stay in there. I went out to the coffee urn, where Judah was standing by himself in the blue tux, holding the corsage box again. Somebody had handed it back to him.
“Judah. What’s in number nine.”
“I can’t, Mrs. Guthrie.”
“I’m her mother.”
“I know.” He wouldn’t look up. “She said it had to be him. She said if it came from anybody else it didn’t count.”
His father came up behind him. Jose Pangilinan is a short man with a mustache and he had sawdust on the knees of his work pants. I’ve lived across the alley from him for twelve years and I think I’ve heard him say thirty words.
He put his hand flat on Judah’s back.
“You never asked why he quit using the gate,” he said to me.
“Mitch said there were break-ins at the shop.”
Jose looked at me for a long time.
“There weren’t any break-ins,” he said. “Ask your husband what he said to me in the parking lot. In front of the guys.”
The family room
Mitch’s jacket was hanging on the back of a folding chair. He’d gone out the side door with the funeral director to talk about the cars.
Alma was in the ladies’ room.
I didn’t think about it. I put my hand in the inside pocket like I was looking for his keys, and I took out number nine.
It was longer than the others. Both sides. She’d started out writing big and gotten smaller as she went, like she was afraid of running out of room.
Dad.
I heard the whole call with Bridget. I was on the couch. I put my face in the pillow so you wouldn’t see me, but I wasn’t crying because it hurt.
Grandma told me the rest. She came over on a Sunday and told me you went across the alley to the tire shop and told Mr. Pangilinan in front of all the guys that his kid had been in your wallet, and if he ever came through our gate again you’d call the cops on him. She told me like I was supposed to be proud of you.
Judah never said one word to me about it. Not one. He just started ringing the front bell every day so you’d have to hear it.
It was me. I took the card out of your wallet on the counter. I bought it on purpose, because I knew you’d never let me pay for a tux for a boy.
You said it about him in front of people. So you have to say sorry to him in front of people. That’s why it’s a tux. That’s why it’s at my funeral and not at the house.
I love you. You still have to.
There was a little drawing of a catfish at the bottom.
I sat down on the arm of the couch in that room with all the tissues, and I read it again.
Six months. Every morning at seven-fifteen. That kid on my porch with his backpack, waiting for somebody to let him in, and my husband walking out to the garage so he wouldn’t have to look at him.
And my daughter on the couch, knowing.
The door opened behind me.
“Put that back in his jacket, Rochelle,” Alma said.
The open casket
I didn’t put it back.
I walked past her and out into the chapel. There was still a line of people going up to the casket. Judah was at the end of it with his father. Mitch was just coming in the side door, and he saw what was in my hand, and he came straight at me down the side aisle.
“Give me that.”
I held it out to him. I didn’t let go.
“Out loud,” I said.
“Rochelle. Not here.”
“You said it in front of people.”
He looked around. Everybody was looking at us. The line had stopped moving.
“Two hundred and fourteen dollars,” he said. He wasn’t quiet about it. “The SAME week they kicked back her scan. The same week. What was I supposed to think? That kid’s in my house every night since he’s five years old. He eats at my table. He knows where my wallet sits on the counter. I didn’t call the cops. I could have called the cops. I went over there and I talked to his father man to man, and I told him to keep his kid on his own side of the alley until I knew what was what. That’s all I did. That’s all.”
“In the parking lot,” Jose said. “With six men standing there.”
Mitch turned around. I don’t think he’d seen Jose until right then.
Alma came out of the family room fast, holding her purse in front of her with both hands.
“Mitchell, don’t you dare,” she said. “Don’t you dare apologize to that boy. He came in here dressed like a clown and made a fool of you in front of your whole church. He knew exactly what he was doing.”
“Ma.”
“She was on the morphine. She’d have written anything.”
“Ma, how did she know about the tire shop,” Mitch said.
Alma opened her mouth and shut it.
“I didn’t tell her,” he said. “I told YOU.”
“She asked me why that boy was ringing the bell like a stranger. What was I supposed to say? I told her her father was looking out for her. I told her the truth.”
The whole room heard it. The cousins. Pastor Murphy. The women from Wednesday prayer group, three of them, in the second row where they could hear everything.
Mitch looked down at the paper in my hand for a long time.
Then he took it, and I let go.
He read it out loud. Not well. He read it like a man reading a ticket he got. His voice went out at in front of all the guys and he stood there and waited for it to come back, and then he read the rest, all the way to you still have to.
He folded it up.
He walked over to Judah. Judah was taller than him in those short pants and those gym socks, and he stood very straight, like he did when Mitch used to throw him grounders in the yard.
“It was two hundred and fourteen dollars,” Mitch said.
“Yes sir.”
“I said you were a thief. In front of Seamus and those guys at the shop. I said it to your dad.”
“Yes sir.”
Mitch’s chin did something I’d only seen it do once, in the oncologist’s office.
“I was wrong. I’m sorry.”
Judah nodded. He held out the corsage box, with the other thirty-four squares still inside.
Mitch took it in both hands.
When it was time to go to the cemetery, he didn’t get in the family car with me. He rode in Alma’s Buick, three cars back, with his mother crying in the driver’s seat the whole way.
I rode behind the hearse with Judah and his father.
The padlock
On a Tuesday in November, I went out to the garage and got Mitch’s bolt cutters off the pegboard.
The padlock on the back gate took two tries. It dropped in the dead leaves and I left it there.
Mitch was at the kitchen table when I came back in. He sleeps on the couch now, the same couch, and most nights I hear him through the wall reading one of those little squares out loud to nobody. Some nights he can’t. He’s on forty.
The shoebox is in the garage. The corsage box is on top of the fridge.
Alma calls on Sundays. I let it ring.
At seven-fifteen, Judah came across the alley carrying a Pyrex dish of his father’s pancit in both hands, like it might spill.
He looked at the gate standing open. He looked at the window, where Mitch was.
Then he came through the gate and up the back steps and let himself in without knocking.
If this one stayed with you, send it to somebody who still has a kid coming through their back gate.
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