I married my wife two years ago. We met at university, dated for about two years, and tied the knot. Life was great, and we didn’t have any significant issues in our marriage. You could say we were happy.
About 10 months ago, we found out my wife was pregnant. I was thrilled because we had been trying for a baby. But her reaction was different. She seemed distant and less excited than I’d expected.
During the early stages of her pregnancy, her mood began to shift drastically—she became irritable and furious much of the time. I brushed it off, assuming these were just the typical mood swings of pregnancy and tried to be supportive.
Then, out of nowhere, she started talking about wanting an abortion. I was shocked and confused. When I asked her why, she refused to give me a reason. I told her I wanted to be a father and hoped she’d eventually come around. Looking back, I regret not questioning her more.
About a month and a half ago, I came home to find her crying in the dining room. Concerned, I asked what was wrong. That’s when she dropped the bombshell: she had been unfaithful. She admitted she had slept with another man—the brother of one of her friends—and the baby she was carrying wasn’t mine.
I was devastated. I couldn’t even think straight. In that moment, I told her to go rest and that we’d talk in the morning. She kept crying and begging for forgiveness, but I told her not to stress herself out and left her alone. I spent the entire night sitting in the dining room, unable to process what had just happened.
The next morning, I told her to pack her things and go stay with her parents while I decided what to do. She pleaded with me not to send her away, even hugging me and crying for forgiveness. But I remained firm. I called her brother, who came and picked her up. He didn’t ask many questions, just took her and left.
After that, I contacted a divorce lawyer to get the process started. Luckily, we had a prenup stating that if either of us committed adultery, the other would receive all shared assets. Two days later, her family began calling me nonstop.
When I didn’t answer, they showed up at my house with her in tow, demanding to know why I was “overreacting.”
In front of her entire family, she admitted to the affair. To make things worse, her mother and sister confessed they had known about her infidelity but decided not to tell me. I was livid. I asked them all to leave and told them I’d be filing for divorce. I also said I’d demand a paternity test when the baby was born.
Her father later tried to bribe me into forgiving her, offering to buy me a house and a car if I stayed. I refused. Since then, her family has been harassing me nonstop, but I’ve ignored them.
About 10 days ago, my wife gave birth to a baby boy. I insisted on a paternity test, despite her family’s attempts to dissuade me. Yesterday, I received the results—they confirmed that I am not the father. After learning this, I immediately sent her the divorce papers.
Now her family is calling me heartless. They’re saying she made a mistake and that I need to “be the bigger person” and take her back. Her mother even called me, begging me not to go through with the divorce.
I asked her about the baby’s father, and she admitted that he ghosted my wife as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. Apparently, they have no idea where he is now.
I told her this isn’t my mess to clean up and asked her not to contact me again. Since then, my wife has been sending me threatening messages, saying she’ll harm herself and the baby if I don’t take her back. I haven’t replied to any of her messages.
So, people, am I the jerk for divorcing my cheating wife?
