Am I the asshole for recording an insurance rep and refusing to delete it?

Lucy Evans

I’m a hospital social worker. The boy losing his treatment window is six.

I’ve worked with Danielle and her son Mason for eight months now.

Mason has a rare leukemia and needs a bone marrow transplant within three weeks, according to his oncologist, or the disease progresses past the point of treatment.

Danielle’s insurance, Praxis Health, already denied the transplant twice as “not medically necessary.” I sat with her through both appeals.

Yesterday we had a final review meeting with their case manager, a guy named Craig Holloway, to go over the third denial.

I walked in with six specialist letters and Mason’s latest scan results. Craig barely glanced at any of it.

He said, “Our medical director reviewed the case. The treatment falls outside our covered protocols for this diagnosis code.”

I asked him if he understood what “outside protocol” meant for a six-year-old.

He shrugged and said, “I don’t make the medical decisions. I just relay them.”

Danielle started crying in the chair next to me.

Craig slid a pamphlet across the table about “palliative care resources” like he was handing her a coupon.

Something in me just SNAPPED.

I picked up my phone, hit record, and said, “Say that again. ON THE RECORD. Tell her son’s insurance company thinks hospice is cheaper than saving his life.”

Craig’s face went white. He said, “Turn that off right now, that’s a HIPAA violation, you can’t just – “

I didn’t turn it off.

My coworkers are split down the middle on whether I crossed a line. My supervisor already got a call from Praxis Health’s legal department this morning, asking for the recording to be destroyed.

But I still have it saved in three places.

And I already know exactly who I’m sending it to first.

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