A story surfaced that caught the attention of many. It was shared by a woman who decided to open up about her relationship on a popular Reddit forum called “Off My Chest.” She divulged that she had been together with her fiancé for six years, and their engagement had lasted for eight months. While she managed most of the wedding arrangements, her fiancé, whom she referred to as Ryan, occasionally contributed his ideas.
About a month before this post, Ryan brought up an unusual suggestion. He had been chatting with colleagues about wedding preparations and proposed that she should stray from tradition and not don a white dress.
This peculiar recommendation left her bewildered, but she temporarily dismissed it, thinking it was connected to Ryan’s creative side. Perhaps it was about what he envisioned for their wedding pictures, she speculated.
Following an intense discussion, an air of disappointment clouded over her thoughts, compelling her to ponder deeply about their shared future.
Determined to stick to her plan, she shared her wish to wear white. Ryan’s reactions were mixed, showing some irritation; however, he eventually dropped the topic.
When the Woman Bought Her Wedding DressWith two weeks remaining before the ceremony, she took the step to buy her wedding dress. What she didn’t foresee was that this decision would unleash a wave of disputes with her fiancé. Ryan appeared visibly upset and wanted a glimpse of her dress ahead of time. She held her ground, hoping to keep the dress as a delightful surprise.
Undeterred, Ryan pressed on, inquiring about its color. When she mentioned it was white, his overblown reaction took her by surprise. White seemed like a natural choice for the occasion, so his preference for red left her puzzled. Pressing further for an explanation, she was taken aback to learn that for Ryan, a bride in white symbolized “purity.”
Introducing some backstory, the duo’s relationship commenced when she was 21, and Ryan had just turned 20. Ryan was new to intimate relationships, while she had been in a prior bond with her high school sweetheart lasting four years. They had managed to overcome initial trust issues until this point.
In an attempt to validate his view, Ryan sought allegiance from his mother. Yet, much to his dismay, she sided with the woman. An argument ensued in their living room about the dress’s symbolism, with Ryan’s mother even pointing out his own lack of virginity, humorously suggesting he should also wear red. The argument brought Ryan to tears, though he maintained that her choice of wearing white was deceitful to their guests, supporting different standards for men.
Her Final DecisionThis situation caused the woman to question not only their wedding but their relationship’s future. Following the dispute, she found Ryan’s stance disturbing, and she started to re-evaluate tying the knot with him.
Adding to her confusion was Ryan’s fixation on her past, given his non-religious views. He fretted over her virginity loss at 18, which was years before their first encounter, and this historical concern felt burdensome to her. Seeking clarity, she expressed her thoughts to those willing to lend an ear.
An update from the “Dating Advice” forum painted a new picture of the woman’s life. Now in her late twenties and recently ending her engagement, she was stepping into the dating world after six years.
Her maiden date post-engagement was to take place at a scenic waterfront seafood eatery in North Carolina. The dilemma of what to wear lingered in her mind. Onlookers humorously suggested the color red.
